Is your favorite musician is in town, but all your friends are busy? Dying to see the newest exhibition at the art museum, but everyone in your circle is too uncultured to truly “get it”? Have you ever thought of sparing yourself the pain of scrambling for a date and going out solo?
We’ve all had the dilemma of having an event tug at our heartstrings for us to leave the house for, but the misfortune of having no one to go with. Before we resign to suffering through major FOMO at home, we should ask ourselves, why is this even considered a misfortune in the first place?
Is it because we’re scared of having other people judge us as we enjoy ourselves? Afraid that going out alone will limit the fun we’ll have? Too many times have we missed out on exciting plans merely because there was no one else around to share them with. Let me impose some advice that may relieve you of such a predicament for the rest of your life: throw your fears out the window and have some fun on your lonesome!
I’m not saying that pushing your insecurities aside to have fun is something we can all do with ease, but it is definitely possible. It is a process that takes work but one that will also yield momentous rewards to your confidence and happiness in the long run.
One of the biggest mental barriers to attending events alone is the fear that everyone around you will think you’re weird. One of the main things you have to bring yourself to acknowledge is that most people won’t notice you’re alone if they’re busy with their friends too; in fact, people generally don’t give more than a second’s glance to passersby. In the case you do see someone giving you more than a little thought, it’s definitely because you just radiate that “cool, mysterious stranger” vibe.
Most importantly, you have to be comfortable with yourself. I know it’s hard to break through that initial feeling of awkwardness, but reminding yourself that you deserve the self-pampering will bring you some much-needed peace of mind.
Despite seeming as radical as it is by societal standards, there is nothing innately wrong with going out to enjoy your own company. Self-care is an essential component of maintaining wellness, and one of the most amusing ways to do that is by planning a date with yourself.
The best part of going out alone is that you get to connect with the beauty of your surroundings more than ever. Being unaccompanied forces you to fully appreciate everything you see, details that might have slipped past your eye if your pals get into a spontaneous debate over whether or not water is wet.
In this situation, friends hold you back! If you’re willing to camp out for front-row spots to see the underground DJ you’ve loved since sixth grade, your friends, who don’t know them as well or have any inkling of an idea as to what punctuality is, probably won’t be down for that kind of wait. Going out alone means getting the benefit of doing it on your own terms.
Considering the event is something you’re passionate about, what better way is there to make some stimulating new friendships? When you’re at the book signing of your favorite author, chances are they’ll be the favorite of everyone else attending, too. From there, an infinite number of engaging conversations can start with the stranger of your choice. Since everyone else in the room already has the same taste as you, you’re guaranteed for some engaging conversation and the ability to chatter away your fear of sounding like a complete nerd as you gush over how awesome your interests are together.